actually the reason I was finally able to tell them was because I was seeing a counselor! 

I had hit a major low last year and was really edgy and cranky so mom sent to me a therapist who REALLY helped me!  I felt soooo ooooo much freedom after I told my parents about it.  For one thing I wasn’t looked at like a snob for starting to not want to attend family functions.  And the best thing of all was my mom told me that she was molestated by a family member too so I didn’t feel like a horrid freak anymore.  Like I wrote in my post.  It still hurts and always will but with now the continued support of my family and John I have become a lot more emotionally stable and at peace with my life, and have been able to move on to a healthier lifestyle